Practical Wisdom

By - Abhudai Pal    “Main Toh Test Drive Kiye Bina Gaddi Bhi Na Kharidu.”   A dialogue of the movie Veere Di Wedding The above sentence translates as “I will never buy a car without a test drive.” This is worthy advice for a potential car buyer. However, the context of the above advice is not related to the car market. The above advice is in the context of relationships. Therefore according to the speaker, before getting into a relationship with anyone, you should take a  “test-drive”  of your potential partner. However, how to conduct the test drive  while choosing the mate is unclear? Pic credit unsplash.com I agree with the speaker that “test-drive” is important, in context of the car markets. However, if this advice is applied to relationships without proper understanding of the "test-drive," I have apprehensions. If test-drive means to evaluate “the partner performance in bed,” prior commitment.  It indicates that sex is the sole reason to get committed. This

By - Abhudai Pal   “Let us celebrate 14th Feb, Valentine’s Day as Matra-Pitra Poojan Diwas.” The above words were written on a banner hung near the most crowded place in Kanpur. The organization, which hung this banner was influential. However, I assure you that you will laugh hard when you know the organization's head's name.  Since then, I am intrigued by the mindset of such ultra-progressive thoughts. What threat does Valentine pose for parents?  That it needs to be celebrated as Matra-Pitra Poojan Diwas.   Moreover, if these guys are so respectful of their parents, they can celebrate it whenever they want. To make the occasion more auspicious, they must consult with astrologers to reap paranormal dividends too.  But my friend, you must understand that their intention is not to respect parents. They want you to be trapped in the garb of culture, which they can’t even justify because of the simple reason that they do not understand the culture. They are hooligans whose abilit

By - Abhudai Pal  “Ek Tha Raja, Ek Thi Rani, Dono Mar Gaye Khatm Kahani,” Said Kizzie Basu in the movie “Dil Bechara”.   Kizzie Basu  I disagree with Kizzie. Because, In India, that's not how love stories end. The endings are , “Ek Tha Raja, Ek Thi Rani, Dono Ki Caste/Religion Different The, Parents Ne Mar Kar, Khatm Kar Di Kahani”.  NCRB and National Topper   The National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB) reported that in 2014, 2015, and 2016, the cases of honor killing were 28, 251, and 77 respectively. From 2014 to 2015, the honor killing risen by 796%.  What do you think, which state tops in this shameful category of killing his own child because he/she wants to marry/married a person of his/her choice? Uttar Pradesh topped here .     Parent Consent and Honor Killing  I do think that a parent consent should be taken before marrying. Either they will agree or disagree. But you should deliberately bring your parents on board while marrying your love and convince them. They might w

By - Abhudai Pal   That hangout was like the other one’s, reminisces Navya.  On that hangout, Raj, her friend cum hangout guy surprised her.  He was in dilemma,  wasn’t initiating any conversation, and was pretty unusual that day. Recalls Navya All of sudden, the lights of the café were dim and romantic songs played in the background.   That day, Raj wasn’t speaking anything. He was replying in three words.  Okay, Done and cool!   And this appalled me then.  As the waiter was bringing orders and every order carries a note.  I cherish his way of proposing, he didn’t say a word but with every note brought by the waiter conveyed his messages.  Last one I still remember, “I know its weird, but proposing via writing is comfortable for me as I could not muster the courage to say anything”.  The silent, honest, and child-like efforts he made that day, were so cute, I couldn’t say NO to his proposal and made him my boyfriend-cum-fiance then and husband later. I wish I might have friend-zoned

By - Abhudai Pal Isn’t the youth of the 21st century, trying to balance social standards and romance, while finding their marriage partner? A college incidence from my life is helpful to understand the issue. In my college dramatics society , My teacher used to give us (a group of 4-5 students) a topic. Then we had to perform 2-3 minutes of play/improvisation after 10 minutes of preparation on that topic. That particular day the topic was  “The behavior of a husband, whose wife earns more than her”. We performed improvisation. In that short improvisation, I played the role of husband. I remember that my group kept the salary difference of 50k. In our short improvisation, we showed, how the husband refused to give money to his child and scolds him to get it from her mother as she earned more. When his parents asked him to buy medicines, he directed his parents to her wife to purchase medicines because she earns more than him. In that improvisation of 2-3 minutes, we showed the ego iss

By - Abhudai Pal What is love pollution? You must be aware of Noise pollution, sound pollution, air and water pollution, etc. Irrespective of the nature of pollution the common aspect of pollution is that it causes harm to the physical and mental state of humans. Complying with its harmful nature, love pollution harms the emotional well being of a person. We know that all type of pollution is created by men for their comforts and luxuries. The luxuries are fulfilled?  I don’t know, but in the quest of adding luxuries to one’s life pollution is certainly added. The effects of pollution which we studied in the textbooks are visible and the classic instance of this is India’s Capital  Delhi Pollution is generated when we start exploiting natural resources. Similarly, love pollution is generated when you began exploiting someone feeling under the banner of “It’s the age and time to have fun”. Parents and your relationship approval Have you ever thought about it! What compels parents to not

By - Abhudai Pal Disclaimer – This writing might change your perception of relationships . "Every person with balanced hormone dreams to be in a relationship in his/her life. Relationships are enticing for teenagers and adults, satisfactory for Middle age people and Over-rated according to the old people".  Pari and Nakul said in a dishearted mood. The gradual shift in perception from enticing to satisfactory and finally tagging it as Overrated intrigues me a lot. In Teenage/Youth, the gentleman/lady who aspires to amble in a park holding each other hands, talking for hours, preparing favorite dishes to appease their partner , saying sorry multiple times for no reason and being angry for the sake of experiencing partners cajoling. Let’s enter into the Middle age. The glamorous skin of youth fades. The person enters into his Middle age due to TIME. Whether a middle-aged person convinces himself/herself for losing the charm of their skin or regrets, is s

By - Abhudai Pal "IF EVERYONE IS THINKING ALIKE, THEN SOMEBODY ISN'T THINKING"  George S Patton Every night in clubs all over the world, young ladies and gentlemen sing, dance and party hard. They met new acquaintances, shares a drink, To be precise, requests to buy a drink for the new stranger. Two people discuss their sorrow and told each other that, How the whole world is conspiring to ruin their life's happiness? The discussion between two people of same or opposite sex, give them a reason to stay in a hotel room or their apartment just for the night and forget everything after that night. Well, this culture or phenomenon is known as “HOOK UP”, but does hook up only include sharing of a drink, being together in a hotel room and only talking to each other whole night and just for that night!!! For the sake of simplicity. In this article, I have kept it simple, so Hook up in this article will mean: engaging with a stranger for a night . On that night t

By- Abhudai Pal “It is time for the oppressor to be oppressed”. “Every male is a potential rapist”. Nandita Das The above statements are the testimony of the hatred being installed by the Radical Feminists in the minds of today’s generation. Do all men rape? Does every man cheat? Is every man a harasser? Does every man stare you ludicrously? Does every man you meet want to sleep with you? Is sex the only motive of a man to be in a relationship? Does the hue and cry of innocents does not shiver a man’s heart? Does every man need to be blamed for atrocities committed on women since ages? A big No must be the ultimate answer of you: irrespective of your sex. Your NO is an implication that you understand, “We cannot generalize every individual based on someone else deeds”. Out of 1000 men few are a rapist, and just because of them Is it okay to tag every man, “Potential Rapist”? Imagine if a lady is called “Potential fake accuser”, how would she feel?