Practical Wisdom

By - Abhudai Pal Disclaimer – This writing might change your perception of relationships . "Every person with balanced hormone dreams to be in a relationship in his/her life. Relationships are enticing for teenagers and adults, satisfactory for Middle age people and Over-rated according to the old people".  Pari and Nakul said in a dishearted mood. The gradual shift in perception from enticing to satisfactory and finally tagging it as Overrated intrigues me a lot. In Teenage/Youth, the gentleman/lady who aspires to amble in a park holding each other hands, talking for hours, preparing favorite dishes to appease their partner , saying sorry multiple times for no reason and being angry for the sake of experiencing partners cajoling. Let’s enter into the Middle age. The glamorous skin of youth fades. The person enters into his Middle age due to TIME. Whether a middle-aged person convinces himself/herself for losing the charm of their skin or regrets, is s

By - Abhudai Pal "IF EVERYONE IS THINKING ALIKE, THEN SOMEBODY ISN'T THINKING"  George S Patton Every night in clubs all over the world, young ladies and gentlemen sing, dance and party hard. They met new acquaintances, shares a drink, To be precise, requests to buy a drink for the new stranger. Two people discuss their sorrow and told each other that, How the whole world is conspiring to ruin their life's happiness? The discussion between two people of same or opposite sex, give them a reason to stay in a hotel room or their apartment just for the night and forget everything after that night. Well, this culture or phenomenon is known as “HOOK UP”, but does hook up only include sharing of a drink, being together in a hotel room and only talking to each other whole night and just for that night!!! For the sake of simplicity. In this article, I have kept it simple, so Hook up in this article will mean: engaging with a stranger for a night . On that night t

By- Abhudai Pal “It is time for the oppressor to be oppressed”. “Every male is a potential rapist”. Nandita Das The above statements are the testimony of the hatred being installed by the Radical Feminists in the minds of today’s generation. Do all men rape? Does every man cheat? Is every man a harasser? Does every man stare you ludicrously? Does every man you meet want to sleep with you? Is sex the only motive of a man to be in a relationship? Does the hue and cry of innocents does not shiver a man’s heart? Does every man need to be blamed for atrocities committed on women since ages? A big No must be the ultimate answer of you: irrespective of your sex. Your NO is an implication that you understand, “We cannot generalize every individual based on someone else deeds”. Out of 1000 men few are a rapist, and just because of them Is it okay to tag every man, “Potential Rapist”? Imagine if a lady is called “Potential fake accuser”, how would she feel?

By- Abhudai Pal  Oh, Something is saucy! Why don’t you confess your feeling? Every person hears these from his friends at least once in a life. In a world of  “HOOK UP” culture, why some people find it daunting to confess? Whereas for the majority of youngsters, confession dialogues are the same for every one they find in a club, what changes with time is the person with whom they confess?  The problem with individuals who don’t confess is, neither they confess nor they allow any of their peer to do so. The situation becomes a stalemate. What name/title would be appropriate for such type of RELATIONSHIP?  Don’t you think, they understand the  relationship better then who are  officially in RELATIONSHIP? I term this RELATIONSHIP as  unsaid/unofficial Relationship The unofficial relationship isn’t  constrained by LOVERS only;  it resides in every aspect of life. You feel more connected to an enemy than strangers in PUBLIC PLACE. This behavior of human

By - Abhudai Pal “How enchanting it must be, to be in a RELATIONSHIP.” Said a single. “I too thought the same before being committed” – A committed person.  A relationship is the most enticing topic of discussion in a person's prime. Youth want to be in a RELATIONSHIP. Don’t you? Singles have the utopian vision of “RELATIONSHIP” while couples want to get rid of it. The huge  paradigm shift!! Couples argue, My Partner is no more understanding as he/she was. My partner has no time left for me. He/She doesn’t love me anymore. He/She doesn’t go for a date as we used to go. He/She has no affection toward me. Few Relationships convert into marriages, but many youths are committed. Fascinating! Before you are in a relationship, it seems a panacea. Once you are committed,  you find ways to get rid of it deliberately. Isn’t this thought-provoking? This implies that a significant number of youths are “HEARTBROKEN”? Then how could their performance in