Will Krishna find his Radha? A lesson in a relationship!
“Hell yeah, I love her.
I have met a million girls in my life. Not million, but you know what I want to say. Yeah! That’s like my friend.
The ecstasy I felt in her presence is the panacea for my mind. I am ruthlessly honest with myself and I confess that I never felt so strongly for any girl. Maybe she will reciprocate for my feelings too! This might seems stupid to you but man what Bollywood said about true love. I am feeling it, like
The gentle breeze blows whenever she passes beside me.
My mind sings “Tujh Mein Rab Dikhta Hain” at her appearance.
I feel the kind of emotion what Raj had for Simran in DDLJ
I am not remembering other things and I guess you get what I want to convey”.
Stop, Stop! I said to my friend Krishna.
The level of happiness I saw on my friend's face was rare. I have never seen him so happy, hopeful, and crazy that too for a girl.
What all you heard above, were the words my friend Krishna, who spoke to me in sheer excitement. He was overwhelmed as if he has won the
U.S Presidential election.
Before, I tell you about his love story. Let me introduce you to my childhood friend Krishna.
He is a mean guy, whose life now revolves around the office, friends, and bars. The image he developed of himself, astonishes me whether his hormones are okay! In school, his only girlfriend was Physics. In college, he married Mechanics and in his working life, he divorced them after getting a good job.
One fine day, I inquired him about his definition of love. Reluctantly he gave me his philosophy, and I was amazed that book-worm too devised his parameters of love. Long-story-short, his notion of love wasn’t coated with the concept of “HOOK-UPS”, “INFATUATION” and miles away from PSEUDO-FEMINISM!
He does talk to ladies in his office and strictly for official purposes (he fulfills the minimum communication skills required for a corporate job). He doesn’t flirt with them and behaves rudely, compared to his male colleagues. His name is Krishna but he is allergic to Gopi’s. Thus, it's better to forget about the existence of any Radha in his life.
This time, a lady has awakened the dormant philanderer in Krishna or maybe he has found his “true love”. He mustered lots of courage and asked her for the coffee. Since he has a fragile foundation in communicating with ladies. I helped him and gave some questions to ask and advised him to smile and look at her eyes when in trouble.
His first date at 25 went well, and both entered into an enchanted, and “Humara Waisa Wala Nahi Hain” relationship.
Alas! Krishna’s relationship lasted for 2 years. In these 2 years, he was blindly in love with her. He fulfilled her every acceptable and unacceptable wish. He was no more her lover but became a slave. It seems he has sold his self-respect in some unrespectable markets. Maybe this was the sole reason she left him. The break-up tormented him into pieces.
Months after his break up. He was immersed in her thoughts that he broke, went into depression, and hurt himself physically. His focus began to bane, from being the employee of the year to reaching on the verge of being fired was traumatic for me as well, as his only childhood friend.
He attended counseling sessions and slowly-steadily he does recover from the pain, grief, and aloofness. But the greater consequence of the entire process was his perception shift towards ladies.
He understood that “his case can’t be generalized for all the ladies on earth”. Five years passed by, and he turned 30.
With time pressure mounted from his family to get married therefore he tried hard to get into another relationship. He used tactics like,
-Installed all dating apps
-Bought the premier membership of all matrimonial sites
-Dated different ladies on every weekend
-Purchased best outfit and perfume to look presentable
-Spent lot of money on every date
Alas! Nothing worked. He failed to complete even his single date. Within 15 minutes, he left the place and deleted all the contact of his date.
When he was approached by some, then also he repeated his indifferent attitude and continue hurting them without any remorse.
I was frustrated at his acts. I yelled over him.
What’s the problem with you? Can’t you just engage yourself with someone for the rest of your life?
“I am trying”. Said, Krishna
“No, you are simply making fun of yourself”. I slammed him again
“Bro, I don’t know why but I am not able to feel for any lady I met, even if I try.” He said despising himself
I diagnosed his incurable disease which can be addressed by the novel written by Ravinder Singh.
If Krishna were to met Ravinder, his answer must be No.
The problem with my friend is that he is not able to accept his break-up unconsciously. Every time he dates someone he feels as if he is betraying his ex. He refused to tolerate that his ex place would be occupied by someone.
He has unconsciously forgotten to give himself hope when it comes to falling in the relationship. The indelible imprint of time he spent with her ex still flashes in his mind. My friend needs more time and I have a strong belief that Krishna will definitely find her Radha at the right time. So, next time once he finds his RADHA, I will advise him to be a lover and not a slave.
Don’t engage yourself with anyone up to an extent you find hard to come back
Fall in love, not in slavery
“Don’t stop feeling” just because of a tragic event.
Believe in your conscious self who knows right and wrong not the unconscious self.
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