Practical Wisdom

By - Abhudai Pal  So do you abuse? Asked Rohit to Chitra,  Do you mean assault? Replied Chitra Not assault, so let me be precise with my question. Do you use swear words? Asked Rohit again to Chitra, Pic credit to unsplash.com She replied, "No," with a smirk.  In a way, Chitra was right. The word abuse carries deeper meaning rather than just the use of "swear words."  With such stupid talks, the familiarity/friendship between both of them evolved.  Rohit was a person whose notion of romance was akin to the ideal love stories of the world. Rather than dreaming of one night, his ideas of romance were poetic, abstract, and hard to find. He knows that such expectations of the world are irrational.  Despite knowing everything, this was one aspect of his life in which he did not want to compromise. He wants his partner to be ideal and his love story to be as devoted, dedicated, and passionate as Heer and Ranjha, Romeo and Juliet, etc.  Slowly and steadily, like every oth

By - Abhudai Pal    Happy Valentine's day!  Whenever it comes to wishing this day, people often see it as a strange day. Those who dislike this term it as the influence of western culture.  However, the same set of people has no problem with Father's Day, Mother's Day, New year, etc., which too are consequences of western culture.  Pic credit unsplash.com  The peak of Hypocrisy!   Since every relation has a day. So this day is reserved to celebrate/cherish your relationship with your partner. Historically, this day's meaning is also understood without proper context.  In fact, Saint Valentine spread the message of love around the world. Love for your fellow human beings. It was not mandated to limit the nature of love that couples share for one another. Its context shrinks with time, and now it is used only in that context. When it comes to love or loving your partner. Do we really comprehend what it is or how to feel it?  Is it solely because of the flow of hormones? 

By - Abhudai Pal   Victoria , an undergraduate girl, had average expectations from life. She was a rationalist and meticulous in her life choices. If you meet her, you will be surprised how someone could be so sorted! Friendliness and Helping everyone in her personal capacities were qualities she was known for. Albeit, she has plans for every stage in her life. However, life has the habit of going topsy-turvy. Pic credit unsplash.com  So the calm, stable, and jolly girl life was shocked by Aman, her college friend. A few months ago, when Aman asked for Victoria's help in an assignment, even she had not thought some "help" would be emotionally taxing. Actually, after the help, romantic developments happened. Usually, Victoria used to avoid such stuff. However, hormones do exist! And with Aman, her hormones ruled over her rationality. When Aman proposed to her, she could not resist and fell for him. No one had thought that she would fall at this juncture. Even she was surpr

By - Abhudai Pal    “Main Toh Test Drive Kiye Bina Gaddi Bhi Na Kharidu.”   A dialogue of the movie Veere Di Wedding The above sentence translates as “I will never buy a car without a test drive.” This is worthy advice for a potential car buyer. However, the context of the above advice is not related to the car market. The above advice is in the context of relationships. Therefore according to the speaker, before getting into a relationship with anyone, you should take a  “test-drive”  of your potential partner. However, how to conduct the test drive  while choosing the mate is unclear? Pic credit unsplash.com I agree with the speaker that “test-drive” is important, in context of the car markets. However, if this advice is applied to relationships without proper understanding of the "test-drive," I have apprehensions. If test-drive means to evaluate “the partner performance in bed,” prior commitment.  It indicates that sex is the sole reason to get committed. This

By - Abhudai Pal   “Let us celebrate 14th Feb, Valentine’s Day as Matra-Pitra Poojan Diwas.” The above words were written on a banner hung near the most crowded place in Kanpur. The organization, which hung this banner was influential. However, I assure you that you will laugh hard when you know the organization's head's name.  Since then, I am intrigued by the mindset of such ultra-progressive thoughts. What threat does Valentine pose for parents?  That it needs to be celebrated as Matra-Pitra Poojan Diwas.   Moreover, if these guys are so respectful of their parents, they can celebrate it whenever they want. To make the occasion more auspicious, they must consult with astrologers to reap paranormal dividends too.  But my friend, you must understand that their intention is not to respect parents. They want you to be trapped in the garb of culture, which they can’t even justify because of the simple reason that they do not understand the culture. They are hooligans whose abilit

By - Abhudai Pal  “Ek Tha Raja, Ek Thi Rani, Dono Mar Gaye Khatm Kahani,” Said Kizzie Basu in the movie “Dil Bechara”.   Kizzie Basu  I disagree with Kizzie. Because, In India, that's not how love stories end. The endings are , “Ek Tha Raja, Ek Thi Rani, Dono Ki Caste/Religion Different The, Parents Ne Mar Kar, Khatm Kar Di Kahani”.  NCRB and National Topper   The National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB) reported that in 2014, 2015, and 2016, the cases of honor killing were 28, 251, and 77 respectively. From 2014 to 2015, the honor killing risen by 796%.  What do you think, which state tops in this shameful category of killing his own child because he/she wants to marry/married a person of his/her choice? Uttar Pradesh topped here .     Parent Consent and Honor Killing  I do think that a parent consent should be taken before marrying. Either they will agree or disagree. But you should deliberately bring your parents on board while marrying your love and convince them. They might w

By - Abhudai Pal   That hangout was like the other one’s, reminisces Navya.  On that hangout, Raj, her friend cum hangout guy surprised her.  He was in dilemma,  wasn’t initiating any conversation, and was pretty unusual that day. Recalls Navya All of sudden, the lights of the café were dim and romantic songs played in the background.   That day, Raj wasn’t speaking anything. He was replying in three words.  Okay, Done and cool!   And this appalled me then.  As the waiter was bringing orders and every order carries a note.  I cherish his way of proposing, he didn’t say a word but with every note brought by the waiter conveyed his messages.  Last one I still remember, “I know its weird, but proposing via writing is comfortable for me as I could not muster the courage to say anything”.  The silent, honest, and child-like efforts he made that day, were so cute, I couldn’t say NO to his proposal and made him my boyfriend-cum-fiance then and husband later. I wish I might have friend-zoned

By - Abhudai Pal Isn’t the youth of the 21st century, trying to balance social standards and romance, while finding their marriage partner? A college incidence from my life is helpful to understand the issue. In my college dramatics society , My teacher used to give us (a group of 4-5 students) a topic. Then we had to perform 2-3 minutes of play/improvisation after 10 minutes of preparation on that topic. That particular day the topic was  “The behavior of a husband, whose wife earns more than her”. We performed improvisation. In that short improvisation, I played the role of husband. I remember that my group kept the salary difference of 50k. In our short improvisation, we showed, how the husband refused to give money to his child and scolds him to get it from her mother as she earned more. When his parents asked him to buy medicines, he directed his parents to her wife to purchase medicines because she earns more than him. In that improvisation of 2-3 minutes, we showed the ego iss

By - Abhudai Pal What is love pollution? You must be aware of Noise pollution, sound pollution, air and water pollution, etc. Irrespective of the nature of pollution the common aspect of pollution is that it causes harm to the physical and mental state of humans. Complying with its harmful nature, love pollution harms the emotional well being of a person. We know that all type of pollution is created by men for their comforts and luxuries. The luxuries are fulfilled?  I don’t know, but in the quest of adding luxuries to one’s life pollution is certainly added. The effects of pollution which we studied in the textbooks are visible and the classic instance of this is India’s Capital  Delhi Pollution is generated when we start exploiting natural resources. Similarly, love pollution is generated when you began exploiting someone feeling under the banner of “It’s the age and time to have fun”. Parents and your relationship approval Have you ever thought about it! What compels parents to not